Loving Kindness

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

His Holiness the  Dalai Lama – 

“According to Buddhism, compassion is an aspiration, a state of mind, wanting others to be free from suffering. It’s not passive — it’s not empathy alone — but rather an empathetic altruism that actively strives to free others from suffering. Genuine compassion must have both wisdom and lovingkindness. That is to say, one must understand the nature of the suffering from which we wish to free others (this is wisdom), and one must experience deep intimacy and empathy with other sentient beings (this is lovingkindness).”

Elizabeth Hearn Hypno-psychotherapist. CHP (NC) with 29 years  of personal recovery from active addiction and 26 years experience in mental and addiction healthcare. Her personal recovery from addiction   is the embodiment of abstinence based  strategies: she has been practising mindfulness meditation for over 40 years.  

 

Thriving is  believing you  have the power to heal yourself, prevent illness, and feel connected to the universal energy around you. That we need more balance in our lives, and more emphasis on our own well-being, as well as the well-being of our families, workplaces, communities – and our planet is a given in conscious living. Part of the solution, for many, involves a look inward- becoming an observer in the immediacy of present moment. 

Suffering is universal, but each experience is unique to the individual. When you accept this, you can no longer need to create more  suffering that comes from  negatively judging yourself or others.  

And, if you use your suffering as an opportunity to begin a process of inquiry and self-connection, you’ll cultivate insights and tools to prepare you for whatever may come—and ideally avoid the additional suffering that often goes with it.

Bring your attention to your breath.  Hold the space  to reflect on the situation that has caused you to feel fear and doubt your reality…ask yourself  not why but what you are thinking – is it true, is kind  is it necessary?

Being judgemental is triggered by insecurity, low self esteem and lack of purpose.   When you recognize feelings that you do have some control over, take note. They are only adding to your challenge or hardship, so imagine what it might feel like to let them go.

This practice is just that—a practice. It takes time to cultivate self-awareness and even more time to make changes. Throughout the process, remind yourself that you are not alone: Everyone experiences suffering of some kind.

Practice pausing. Slowly down  thinking – this engenders calmness and relaxation- easing into life… responsive instead of reactive.  Awareness is an important first step. In time, this practice can help you to reduce unnecessary suffering and to move through the suffering you cannot change with grace and compassion.

 


The saying “happiness is fleeting” and “suffering seems eternal” is true when we don’t want to do something we don’t feel inspired to do, paradoxically we can’t wait to do what we like doing. The perception.

Learning to love your thoughts turns the key into feeling uplifted most of the time, no longer noticing whether you like doing something or not it all blends into feeling happy whatever is happening.

 

Surrender expectations:

Let go of trying to fathom the unfathomable.  You are a spiritual being. You do not know what God’s will is for you  or God’s plans. Let go of controlling and have faith that if you do your best – you are enough, the situation is enough, everything is enough. It is the desire for a quick fix/change  that binds the individual. It is the detachment from unnecessary actions that liberates us from victimisation.

 

The human mind is  powerful. It determines actions, not just what you do, how you interpret what you do. The mind  determines how you make decisions, what you chose to remember, and how you plan for the future. Your mind is responsible for all of your experiences, bad and good.  The Buddhist mindset calls on us, in each and every moment of our day, to choose how you see and experience the moment.

Healing the mind/body disconnection begins with awareness. Obsessive thinking craves  certainty. Stress escalates  and is even more challenging in the absence of  being able to return to the moment: it said that if we are depressed we are thinking about the past, if we are anxious we are projecting into the future – ergo be present, let go of the negativity.

 

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Jelaluddin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks

Every form of genuine awareness is liberating. Each moment we release entanglement liberates us from cravings and attachment.   Remember too that every practice of awareness can create a shadow when we mistakenly cling to it. A misuse of space can easily lead us to become spaced-out and unfocused. A misuse of absorption can lead to denial, the ignoring of other experiences, and a misuse of ordinary awareness can create a false sense of “self” as a witness. These shadows are the subtlety of  attachment. See them for what they are and let them go is   accessing the lenses of awareness to serve your wise attention.

The more you experience the power of wise attention, the more your trust in the ground of awareness itself will grow. You will learn to relax and let go. In any moment of being caught, awareness will step in, a presence without judging or resisting. Close-in or vast, near or far, awareness illuminates the ungraspable nature of the universe. It returns the heart and mind to its birthright, naturally luminous and free.

May you be free from worry and indecision.May you be happy.

 

 

 

You are exactly where you need to be – just breathe…