WELLBEING

 

Masterclass in self compassion:

Surrender can be considered as counterintuitive to success, wrongly associated with losing face, weakness, and defeat. Surrender is success.   Surrender  encourages  us to become more patient, poised and present. Disrupting   a “hurry-up – life script/agenda”   enables us to change self-sabotaging  habits.

“When you are in the state of surrender, you will reject anything that comes  between you and your relationship  with God. ” Tommy Rosen founder of 2.0 Recovery.  Addiction recovery is sustainable when we continue to practice the art of insight meditation,  training the mind to go  within. We are social beings, hardwired to  connect.  In order to thrive we need  contact, communication and  connection for optimal brain development.

Dr. Gabor Maté observes an extremely high rate of childhood trauma, abuse and neglect  in the addicts he works with. The absence of consistent love, compassion, encouragement, instilled in children that the world is an unsafe place.  He asserts that it is extremely common for people with addictions to have a reduced capacity for dealing with emotional distress, hence an increased risk of drug-dependence.

Disconnection triggers addictive behaviours: obsession, compulsivity, acting out, dark-net digital dependency, substance/alcohol  abuse, eroticised rage, manifest  disconnection from reality.

Digital addiction can  affect the quality of sleep,  too little sleep disrupts the body’s ability to digest, renew and restore itself.  When we sit in front of our computers, without taking a break to eat,  we are not only not digesting our food,  habitually needing the quick-fix preference of processed (carbs) food:  sugar, fat and salt. Stress-eating occurs  as a  result of feeling vulnerable, reaching impulsively for food is a coping mechanism for people who process emotion through their gut and not their mind.

Resetting the brain, rebalancing the emotional, physical and spiritual  mind and body connection.  Bridging the gap between cause  and affect.When we are aware, our perception of the present moment isn’t automatically distorted and or  disconnected from reality. I think we can all agree that  agree that an emotionally intelligent mindset  consisting of awareness,  attention and engagement in the present moment is challenging in the beginning to access and over time the awareness muscle is more readily available  when  relationship ruptures   occur in the immediacy of daily life that have the potency to derail us, cause stress and fearful projections of failing.

Self-awareness  is a potent. Like a muscle – if you do not use it,  you lose it. Become curious. Become present.Self-acceptance  is learning to love divergent existence. An engaged mind, body soul  is connected to all that is with detachment, and discernment.   Focussing on one task  at a time –  being our best is  doing our best.

Mindfulness is a skill-set that time and practice to develop. Mindfulness is being focussed, continuously creating intentionality. Mindfulness is  being compassionate. Mindfulness is participating fully. Mindfulness is being non-judgemental.

I recommend do what I do to destress distress: as well as intermittent fasting, eating 80% plant based food, meditation, yoga and walking – I love my family, and friend because I have the opportunity to be the best me throughout the day.

Highly stressed people are over stimulated,  “have too many windows open” and no mechanisms to ‘switch-off. ” Stimulus saturation impacts mental  health-wellbeing. Seeking intensity  disconnection from our essential being and from others. The space between reacting and responding: being in the gap exponentially grows through regular meditation. Committing to daily a restorative meditation practice transform stress into strength of mind and body. experience emotional balance.

Hope.  Healthy coping skills. Balancing stressors. Shift in focus and purpose from self-limiting fear-based thinking to creating intentions in the immediacy of daily life.

  • Autonomy
  • Boundaries
  • Awareness
  • Focus
  • Accountability

Awareness of shifting attention between the conscious and unconscious minds and the outer world.The easiest way to understand mindfulness experimentally is the  focus all of your attention on your thoughts, feelings, and actions as they occur.

Self-awareness can be practiced by actively observing yourself when communicating with others. This includes your reactions to verbal and non-verbal forms of communication, and the way those reactions influence your responses. This type of awareness also contributes to being able to  self-regulate our thoughts feeling and actions.

Lets talk about the impact of work related addiction and mental health problems:  Anxiety, Sleep Deprivation, Adrenal Fatigue, Addiction,  Compromised Nutrition Syndrome, Anxiety and Depression.

Work related stress is proving to  be highly detrimental: personally, professionally  and productively. Mindfulness stress reduction retrain the mind/body connection,   enhances congruence,  cognitive performance, and  interpersonal relationships.

 

 

Considering how much time we spend on tasks – learning how to be energy efficient with our body, thinking, feeling behaviours is what is available  when we commit to a mindfulness meditation practice. You can’t have one without the other. Both mind states strive for unity – this is a way of life that has numerous benefits.  Breath-work (pranayama) is the centre piece of meditation and mindfulness. Learning how to breathe differently requires conscious commitment to bring the breath back to centre, realign  the physical body.  Every time you bring the mind back from drifting , you’re building the muscle of concentration and commitment.  The mind wanders off and you bring it back to the breath, again and again. Through repetition you build  concentration.

Anxiety triggers shallow breathing. Mindfulness Stress management tools: Breathe. Pause. reflect. Respond helps destress the mind/body connection when unresolved trauma is triggered in the present moment. Renowned trauma expert Dr. Besel vand Der Kolk  author The  Body  Keeps   Score –  Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma  states trauma is a fact of life. He  has spent over three decades studying trauma. and transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain’s wiring—specially areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust.

He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments:  breath-work, holistic therapies, mindfulness techniques, meditation, yoga, and nutrition. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The  Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy—and a way to reclaim lives.

Stress impacts  conditioned thinking: i.e.  when a person experiences a threat to their survival. The limbic brain demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilise.” In other words, stress is something we experience when we face a situation and our ability to cope is challenged. We feel we’ve lost control of events.

To find out how mindful you are think about your journey to work today. If you were driving were you “mindful”  of distractions from the past…and not focussed on the traffic, pedestrians, etc..  on auto-pilot.

Self-regulating  attributes:

Awareness

Involves being the observer of your experiences and encounters. Connected. For people with stress, depression, addiction and anxiety it is challenging to NOT be habitually constantly over thinking.  Obsessive thinking is seeking certainty.

Participating fully

Is pausing to reflect…then respond. When we reject our thoughts, suppress our needs and wants we are sending others the same message. Often others needs to be seen and heard…however autopilot functioning  is waiting to interrupt, talk over etc..realy listening and responding.

Nonjudgmental

Silencing the inner critic – people pickup on being judged, and will disconnect, withdraw and assume a defensive stance. Our mirror neurons are reflecting back to one another how we feel, and what we home others will not detect …so identify fear in your language with others – we choose to personify healthy ways of interacting with others:  fear or love?