Masterclass in self compassion:
Surrender can be considered as counterintuitive to success, wrongly associated with losing face, weakness, and defeat. Surrender is success. Surrender encourages us to become more patient, poised and present. Disrupting a “hurry-up – life script/agenda” enables us to change self-sabotaging habits.
“When you are in the state of surrender, you will reject anything that comes between you and your relationship with God. ” Tommy Rosen founder of 2.0 Recovery. Addiction recovery is sustainable when we continue to practice the art of insight meditation, training the mind to go within. We are social beings, hardwired to connect. In order to thrive we need contact, communication and connection for optimal brain development.
Dr. Gabor Maté observes an extremely high rate of childhood trauma, abuse and neglect in the addicts he works with. The absence of consistent love, compassion, encouragement, instilled in children that the world is an unsafe place. He asserts that it is extremely common for people with addictions to have a reduced capacity for dealing with emotional distress, hence an increased risk of drug-dependence.
Disconnection triggers addictive behaviours: obsession, compulsivity, acting out, dark-net digital dependency, substance/alcohol abuse, eroticised rage, manifest disconnection from reality.
Digital addiction can affect the quality of sleep, too little sleep disrupts the body’s ability to digest, renew and restore itself. When we sit in front of our computers, without taking a break to eat, we are not only not digesting our food, habitually needing the quick-fix preference of processed (carbs) food: sugar, fat and salt. Stress-eating occurs as a result of feeling vulnerable, reaching impulsively for food is a coping mechanism for people who process emotion through their gut and not their mind.
Resetting the brain, rebalancing the emotional, physical and spiritual mind and body connection. Bridging the gap between cause and affect.When we are aware, our perception of the present moment isn’t automatically distorted and or disconnected from reality. I think we can all agree that agree that an emotionally intelligent mindset consisting of awareness, attention and engagement in the present moment is challenging in the beginning to access and over time the awareness muscle is more readily available when relationship ruptures occur in the immediacy of daily life that have the potency to derail us, cause stress and fearful projections of failing.
Self-awareness is a potent. Like a muscle – if you do not use it, you lose it. Become curious. Become present.Self-acceptance is learning to love divergent existence. An engaged mind, body soul is connected to all that is with detachment, and discernment. Focussing on one task at a time – being our best is doing our best.
Mindfulness is a skill-set that time and practice to develop. Mindfulness is being focussed, continuously creating intentionality. Mindfulness is being compassionate. Mindfulness is participating fully. Mindfulness is being non-judgemental.
I recommend do what I do to destress distress: as well as intermittent fasting, eating 80% plant based food, meditation, yoga and walking – I love my family, and friend because I have the opportunity to be the best me throughout the day.
Highly stressed people are over stimulated, “have too many windows open” and no mechanisms to ‘switch-off. ” Stimulus saturation impacts mental health-wellbeing. Seeking intensity disconnection from our essential being and from others. The space between reacting and responding: being in the gap exponentially grows through regular meditation. Committing to daily a restorative meditation practice transform stress into strength of mind and body. experience emotional balance.
Hope. Healthy coping skills. Balancing stressors. Shift in focus and purpose from self-limiting fear-based thinking to creating intentions in the immediacy of daily life.
Awareness of shifting attention between the conscious and unconscious minds and the outer world.The easiest way to understand mindfulness experimentally is the focus all of your attention on your thoughts, feelings, and actions as they occur.
Self-awareness can be practiced by actively observing yourself when communicating with others. This includes your reactions to verbal and non-verbal forms of communication, and the way those reactions influence your responses. This type of awareness also contributes to being able to self-regulate our thoughts feeling and actions.
Lets talk about the impact of work related addiction and mental health problems: Anxiety, Sleep Deprivation, Adrenal Fatigue, Addiction, Compromised Nutrition Syndrome, Anxiety and Depression.
Work related stress is proving to be highly detrimental: personally, professionally and productively. Mindfulness stress reduction retrain the mind/body connection, enhances congruence, cognitive performance, and interpersonal relationships.
Considering how much time we spend on tasks – learning how to be energy efficient with our body, thinking, feeling behaviours is what is available when we commit to a mindfulness meditation practice. You can’t have one without the other. Both mind states strive for unity – this is a way of life that has numerous benefits. Breath-work (pranayama) is the centre piece of meditation and mindfulness. Learning how to breathe differently requires conscious commitment to bring the breath back to centre, realign the physical body. Every time you bring the mind back from drifting , you’re building the muscle of concentration and commitment. The mind wanders off and you bring it back to the breath, again and again. Through repetition you build concentration.
Anxiety triggers shallow breathing. Mindfulness Stress management tools: Breathe. Pause. reflect. Respond helps destress the mind/body connection when unresolved trauma is triggered in the present moment. Renowned trauma expert Dr. Besel vand Der Kolk author The Body Keeps Score – Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma states trauma is a fact of life. He has spent over three decades studying trauma. and transforms our understanding of traumatic stress, revealing how it literally rearranges the brain’s wiring—specially areas dedicated to pleasure, engagement, control, and trust.
He shows how these areas can be reactivated through innovative treatments: breath-work, holistic therapies, mindfulness techniques, meditation, yoga, and nutrition. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score offers proven alternatives to drugs and talk therapy—and a way to reclaim lives.
Stress impacts conditioned thinking: i.e. when a person experiences a threat to their survival. The limbic brain demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilise.” In other words, stress is something we experience when we face a situation and our ability to cope is challenged. We feel we’ve lost control of events.
To find out how mindful you are think about your journey to work today. If you were driving were you “mindful” of distractions from the past…and not focussed on the traffic, pedestrians, etc.. on auto-pilot.
Involves being the observer of your experiences and encounters. Connected. For people with stress, depression, addiction and anxiety it is challenging to NOT be habitually constantly over thinking. Obsessive thinking is seeking certainty.
Is pausing to reflect…then respond. When we reject our thoughts, suppress our needs and wants we are sending others the same message. Often others needs to be seen and heard…however autopilot functioning is waiting to interrupt, talk over etc..realy listening and responding.
Silencing the inner critic – people pickup on being judged, and will disconnect, withdraw and assume a defensive stance. Our mirror neurons are reflecting back to one another how we feel, and what we home others will not detect …so identify fear in your language with others – we choose to personify healthy ways of interacting with others: fear or love?